Dying from Grief
Hi everyone! I am noticing the amount of people dying from the grief they are experiencing over the loss of a spouse or family member. In my professional previous life as a therapist (now a health and wellness life coach), we were convinced there was a “normal” grieving process that entailed specific stages and rough timelines usually ending at the end of a year! HaHa! That no longer holds true, if it ever did!
People seem to be knocked out of their bodies, their ego seems shattered, and their cognition slowwwwwed down.
This is exactly what I felt when I learned of the death of my son. Like my field around my body was shredded with that information. I couldn’t swallow the pill and keep walking.
Now for me, I didn’t “think” in normal ways anymore. So I did not assess the “why” of my sudden total change. I knew I was different and no longer the same functioning identity I had built over the course of my life.
Much later, I attributed these changes to the possibility I had unresolved grief from the sudden death of my mother when I was barely age 4, and the subsequent severe abuse I suffered throughout my developmental years. The problem with this was the fact I had done everything under the sun for 40 years to heal and grow and this theory was troublesome!
Starting with entering college and Human Services. Attending Dream Analysis intitially for 4 years. Next further college and PsychoAnalysis. Therapy and training in Holotropic Breathwork for 8 years. Further College and training in Personality Development, Supervision, and more College. Then 8 years with John Perriakos in Core Energetics and becoming a trainer in that method. This included more therapy and body-work on an extensive level. I went to the Monroe Institute for hemisync and also trained and became board certified in Hypnosis (3 methods!). I taught university, started programs and for 17 years served as an International Trainer in Core Energetics.
I can honestly say the exploration and training in altered states and the use of specific mushrooms led me into the ability to continue to walk in my changes and continue to live. Thank GOD for the guidance and love that sits somewhere in the field we are breathing in. Thank GOD for the brave people working with alternative methods to help people navigate their circumstances without agendas and theories. I developed into someone new with the support of these alternative methods and continue to learn and grow with them.
My earlier experience with dreams and my abilities to work with clients understanding the dreams we actually live inside allowed me to understand altered states and quickly utilize them in myself and in my work.
I went on to develop an understanding of the importance of getting away from chemicals, plastics, altered food, and to exercise my CORE central body abilities and have enjoyed amazing health and insights as a result.
So, after all that I loose my son and basically loose my ish for the next 10 years. I never ever returned to the same ground I life upon hearing of his death. In addition to loosing him, I lost so called friends and work associates, and much of the way I worked and lived up until that time.
I had left my license to travel and work in Core Energetics and lof all that too. Wow, what an Awakening!
Well, look out because my brain is functioning again! HaHa, I am much quieter, and more internal but I am also able to speak again!
So, away from me, life is showing me this happening to people ALL OVER THE PLACE! Loosing someone, many people are loosing someone, and suddenly! Then, the shut down. The loss of meaning. The self-judgment. The loss of all future interactions with that person. Some experiencing the loss of adult children and then having to take care of their children. Possibly the loss of any future grandchildren. The loss of deep friendships and connections that are not replaceable.
The grief, the shattering, the inability to think, to remember anything current, to care about money, work or fun anymore. There is no way back, and yet, the way forward is there. It requires a relationship with others who believe, who know and who can support the unfolding walk of grief into a deep profound strength and AWAKENING. Let’s GO!
People seem to be knocked out of their bodies, their ego seems shattered, and their cognition slowwwwwed down.
This is exactly what I felt when I learned of the death of my son. Like my field around my body was shredded with that information. I couldn’t swallow the pill and keep walking.
Now for me, I didn’t “think” in normal ways anymore. So I did not assess the “why” of my sudden total change. I knew I was different and no longer the same functioning identity I had built over the course of my life.
Much later, I attributed these changes to the possibility I had unresolved grief from the sudden death of my mother when I was barely age 4, and the subsequent severe abuse I suffered throughout my developmental years. The problem with this was the fact I had done everything under the sun for 40 years to heal and grow and this theory was troublesome!
Starting with entering college and Human Services. Attending Dream Analysis intitially for 4 years. Next further college and PsychoAnalysis. Therapy and training in Holotropic Breathwork for 8 years. Further College and training in Personality Development, Supervision, and more College. Then 8 years with John Perriakos in Core Energetics and becoming a trainer in that method. This included more therapy and body-work on an extensive level. I went to the Monroe Institute for hemisync and also trained and became board certified in Hypnosis (3 methods!). I taught university, started programs and for 17 years served as an International Trainer in Core Energetics.
I can honestly say the exploration and training in altered states and the use of specific mushrooms led me into the ability to continue to walk in my changes and continue to live. Thank GOD for the guidance and love that sits somewhere in the field we are breathing in. Thank GOD for the brave people working with alternative methods to help people navigate their circumstances without agendas and theories. I developed into someone new with the support of these alternative methods and continue to learn and grow with them.
My earlier experience with dreams and my abilities to work with clients understanding the dreams we actually live inside allowed me to understand altered states and quickly utilize them in myself and in my work.
I went on to develop an understanding of the importance of getting away from chemicals, plastics, altered food, and to exercise my CORE central body abilities and have enjoyed amazing health and insights as a result.
So, after all that I loose my son and basically loose my ish for the next 10 years. I never ever returned to the same ground I life upon hearing of his death. In addition to loosing him, I lost so called friends and work associates, and much of the way I worked and lived up until that time.
I had left my license to travel and work in Core Energetics and lof all that too. Wow, what an Awakening!
Well, look out because my brain is functioning again! HaHa, I am much quieter, and more internal but I am also able to speak again!
So, away from me, life is showing me this happening to people ALL OVER THE PLACE! Loosing someone, many people are loosing someone, and suddenly! Then, the shut down. The loss of meaning. The self-judgment. The loss of all future interactions with that person. Some experiencing the loss of adult children and then having to take care of their children. Possibly the loss of any future grandchildren. The loss of deep friendships and connections that are not replaceable.
The grief, the shattering, the inability to think, to remember anything current, to care about money, work or fun anymore. There is no way back, and yet, the way forward is there. It requires a relationship with others who believe, who know and who can support the unfolding walk of grief into a deep profound strength and AWAKENING. Let’s GO!